“Calm down!” Instead of counting to ten, I think about where this sentence ranks on my list of most hated phrases when I'm stressed. As if I could calm down with what I have on my to-do list, where I have to do A, B, C, or H-M next. I don't want to do any of them, but I feel like I have no other choice — which, when I think about it, has always been the main source of stress for me: the feeling of having no choice. Is that right? Is the root of the stress problem the feeling or the actual circumstance of having no choice? That strikes me as odd at first, when I think about my overloaded to-do list. That's what causes the stress, right? Too many tasks and responsibilities and deadlines – exactly, and far too little time. But what if... I had a choice?